We have all heard the saying: “what you see is what you get”, but I put it to you; that may possibly be false. I am a firm believer that what you say, even in jest (joke) can or will have an impact on your life, good or bad.
I do not like negative words being spoken over me, my family, my friends or anyone for that matter, however when my husband jokes about my big forehead, I’m cool with that, coz basically, my forehead is really big, as discussed here. This became particularly important when we had our first child, and by first child I mean only child; and by only child I mean only child for now, and by only child for now I mean… Wait I digress. I use to always correct or reprimanded (sounds harsh I know) anyone who would say she is naughty for crying or a bad girl for whatever reasons they had for saying it. My own mother was one of the “reprimandees”(if that’s a word).
I feel that if declare/say it, it will happen in some way, shape or form. For example. If you say: “I will never get this right” and you never do or it takes you forever to actually get it right. It is a result of a declaration you made that was fulfilled.
Recently I listened to a voice recording by a famous life coach, pastor/spiritual adviser. She starts off by saying, and I quote: “the way you talk to yourself, about yourself. The words that come out of your mouth about yourself, is some of the most important words that you need to pay attention to.” This left me chewing on it for a while.
A few months ago I started a new job at this new job I am in contact with a lot of people and personalities. One such personality is a girl I like to call ‘Debbie-on-Herself-Downer”. Now Miss Downer would always berate herself, as her nickname would describe. Comments like: “Oh I’m not as quick,” or “I’m not as smart”, would frequently and freely flow from her lips. The way I see Miss Downer based on the little info I have is that she is not slow at all. She was actually successful in her previous field and she is constantly a top performer at work, but because Miss Downer keeps talking the way she does, nobody actually wants to associate themselves with her.
Look before Y’all go judgin’ me for not intervening, let me just declare that I have tried to stop or change negative conversations with Miss Downer. That I can assure you. However, it was always unsuccessful. What I have learned in the process is that she cannot rise above her own confessions. Also, you have more authority over yourself than you do over someone else’s words. Meaning when someone speaks negativity over your life, you can speak positivity. However, if you speak negatively over your own life, as much as someone else can speak positivity, your words will almost always reign supreme over your life. Believe you me, I get it. Speaking negatively comes so easy to us. That is why we need to train ourselves to speak positively. With that being said, here are a few things I’ve picked up along the way.
Tips on being positive if you will:
1. Discipline your mouth.
Become accountable for your words. Don’t just speak for the sake of speaking. Catch yourself in the act, no more making jokes or realizing oh I didn’t mean that. Like the saying goes if you ain’t got nuffin nice to say then don’t say nuffin.
2. Say about yourself, what God says about you.
You are made in His image and I for one take comfort in the fact that God is smart and amazing, which makes me smart and amazing also.
3. Talk and think about things that benefit you.
Think and talk positively and so it shall be. Avoid negativity and his relatives, gossip, self-pity, and all those other bad words….. STAY WOKE.
4. Ask yourself, what am I saying about me?
If you are not speaking positively, what are you speaking? What others say about you is important, but what you say to yourself is even more important (“Importanterer”). Remember to check yourself before you rackety wreck yourself.
5. Listen to people.
Before you get into close fellowship/friendship/relationship with someone, listen to what they say. By avoiding toxic you don’t become toxic.
6. Be thankful and say so.
There is always more to be thankful for. By practicing being thankful, you leave little room for negativity and speaking death into your life.
As always these are my Naked Bullets. If you have any; shoot right ahead in the comments section below. I would love to hear from you.
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